Goal Setting – How to Achieve your Goals and Array your Dreams

We all have goals but most people fail to achieve the goals they set themselves and never get what they want. This article is not just about goal setting anyone can do that but how to achieve your goals.

Let’s look at goal setting and how to achieve the goals you set by using some simple steps.

Set Your Goals

We all have different goals we want to achieve. They maybe be personal or they maybe business it doesn’t matter write them down.

Put them in order of priority and now its time to look at how to achieve them.

This trait is needed!

The trait you need to achieve your goals and anything flows from it is:

The desire to achieve.

If you don’t have a burning desire you won’t get anywhere it’s your motivation. In life you will hear of may people who started at a huge disadvantage and achieved their goals – They did it and you can to

Realism and dreaming

Many people when they goal set are really dreaming. They want something that is totally out of their reach and have no chance of achieving it.

When you set goals they must be realistic. They can be ambitious but remember every journey starts “with one small step”

If it’s an ambitious goal then you need to reach it in steps. So you have several sub goals (steps) that lead you to your final goal.

This will give you a sense of achievement when each sub goal is met and make the journey less daunting.

You will be focused, motivated to hit each sub goal and if you have the desire and motivation you will reach your ultimate goal

Time

Is precious and when it passes you can’t get it back, so you need to make the most of it and use it wisely.

Have you ever looked at someone and wondered how they get so much done? Well if you have they will be well aware of time management.

Time & Your goal

You need to work out how much time each goal you have takes and allocate time and effort regularly.

A key to time management is to delegate tasks away that you can and concentrate on what’s important to you.

There Is more to goal setting

This article is really a basic introduction to goal setting and our other articles in this series cover more specific ways to get to your goalsm but the basics of goal setting and more importantly, achieving your goals are based upon the following:

Desire - To achieve a goal.

Realism – In terms of what you want to achieve.



Steps – Getting there in simple specific steps with strict time management.

You can do it!

The fact is anyone can set and reach goals if they use the above format.

So set your goals don’t be a dreamer and set off on a road that will bring you what you want in life today.

Self-Confidence - A Timeless Way To Increase Your Self Esteem

Self-confidence is not the property of psychologists, and the subject is as old as we are as people. Even animals display a general sense of self-confidence by natural methods.
So should you.
In this article we will show you the way to become self-confident, in anything you attempt, by using the way of the ancients.

Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is only a way we perceive our own abilities and talents.
A change of perception can increase or decrease how we view ourselves, without the slightest regard to what are abilities and talents are.

The following story illustrates this principle:

A lion cub was once left alone and grew not among lions but with a flock of sheep who fostered him. He grew as the sheep did, eating grass and living in fear of most predators.
One day a lion came out of the forest and found the flock of sheep, and saw the lion cowering in a corner, shaking for fear.

The forest lion came over to the sheep lion and inquired of him, “what are you doing…cowering and shaking in fear?” The sheep lion replied he was afraid the forest lion would eat him.
The forest lion grabbed the sheep lion by the neck and dragged him to a nearby poor of water.
He forced the sheep lion to gaze into the reflection from the pool. “What do you see?” inquired the forest lion. “I see two lions here” . “Yes”, the forest lion said, “you are a lion like me.”

At once, with the perception that he as a lion, the sheep lion took courage and lost all his fear. Understanding who and what he was, he became a lion, at once stopped being a sheep.

Discover Your True Nature

The way of teaching by all ancient people was to point out to the students their true nature.
You need not use tricks and develop psychological methods of feeling better about you. You have your own true nature, and this nature, whatever it is , is what you are.

You will have certain talents (all of us do), with natural abilities.

These are easy to recognize, as it is the things you understand and do easily.

All of these talents and abilities are on a sliding scale.

For example, if you count well, you may be especially talented in mathematics.
You might be an accountant or bookkeeper on one side of the scale, and a quantum physicist at the other. That is up to you.

Your self-confidence comes from simply knowing yourself.

Why should you feel bad about yourself if you are not good at sports. You will excel somewhere else. Find out about who and what you are, and then self-confidence comes of itself to you.

The Way of the Ancients

The ancients taught each student or each child from a family, to understand who and what we are. This leads not only to self-confidence, but happiness.

Aspire to the best of who and what you are, and this leads to greatness.

How Changes Create Confidence

One of the problems that you may having right now in getting started or moving forward in your fitness and health goals is the fact that you may have no confidence.
Confidence is something that is built only from the inside. We have all met people that are very confident and many people that have no confidence. Often I find that there is no reason for people in either group.

The best way to build confidence is to simply achieve simple goals and build upon them. When I say that you need to achieve a goal I don't mean that you need to win an Olympic medal or anything, all you need to do is set a tiny goal, achieve it and move on. The first time years ago that I road my bicycle to work was a juge leap of faith at the time, I had not ridden a bike in years. After I rode to work and home that first time I knew that I could do it again, I learned that dressing and packing differently would make it easier and I was confident that I now had a new skill.

This is all that you need to build confidence. There is no secret to building confidence although everyone thinks that there is. People spend years and lots of dollars trying to find the secret to great self confidence when all it really takes to be confident is to build little goals, achieve them and move on to slightly bigger goals.

Confidence in life is just an attitude. If you have ever heard the term "fake it till you make it" then you know that others will see you as you project back to them. If you are timid in your own life to others then you are probably speaking to your inner self the same way. If you project and talk to others in confidence, then you are probably using better self talk.

Self Talk

The next step to having great confidence to achieve your dreams is to have good self talk. Never say negative things if possible. You do not have to be one of those irritating people that sees everything as being great, all you need to do is avoid thinking of things negatively as much.
I talk a lot, in my head as well as to other people and often I will catch myself in a bit of a funk in the morning where nothing seems to be going smoothly. One crappy thing builds on another and finally I will catch myself noticing the bad stuff going on and I snp myself back to just seeing things in a better light. I start by focusing on the good things that have happened so far in the day and just try to build on those. This may sound corny and like some kind of new age voodoo but I have always found this to work.

So today, try to find the good in things, make sure you are building little goals and achieving them and make sure everything going on between your ears is helping you and not hurting you in the long run.

Positive Thinking Your Key to Success

Positive thinking brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also helps the daily affairs of life move more smoothly, and makes life look bright and promising.

Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly. Think about happiness, good health and success, and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits.
In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success.
Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.

• Are you willing to make a real inner change?
• Are you willing to change the way you think?
• Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?

Here are a few actions and tips to help you develop the power of positive thinking:

• Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, 'I can', 'I am able', 'it is possible', 'it can be done', etc.
• Allow into your awareness only feelings of happiness, strength and success.
• Try to disregard and ignore negative thoughts. Refuse to think such thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts.
• In your conversation use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success.
• Before starting with any plan or action, visualize clearly in your mind its successful outcome. If you visualize with concentration and faith, you will be amazed at the results.
• Read at least one page of inspiring book every day.
• Watch movies that make you feel happy.
• Minimize the time you listen to the news and read the papers.
• Associate yourself with people who think positively.
• Always sit and walk with your back straight. This will strengthen your confidence and inner strength.
• Walk, swim or engage in some other physical activity. This helps to develop a more positive attitude.

Think positive and expect only favorable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, your mental attitude will affect your life and circumstances and change them accordingly.

5 Steps to a Positive Attitude

Being in a good mood is not difficult. It does take a little work, and it also takes responsibility. Because it's better to be happy than upset, putting yourself in a good mood is definitely worth it. Even the happiest of people find themselves in a bad mood now and then. Others unfortunately may find themselves in low spirits more often than not. The following tips can help both types of people create a better mood each day.

1. TAKE INVENTORY
The first step is to realize you are in a bad mood. If you don't realize it, it's going to be tough to change it. This realization can come from several sources. You are usually the best judge of your mood. You can also get that type of feedback from others.

2. DECIDE TO CHANGE
Now that you know you are in a negative mood, you have to decide you want to change it. This isn't as easy as it sounds. When we're upset, we usually don't want to hear how we should be happy. We usually want to be left alone. That is why this is the toughest step. Regardless, it's worth it. A few days a week in a bad mood can really add up. A friend might comment that you are usually in a negative mood without you even realizing it. Yes it's hard to make this decision, but after you have changed your mood, you'll be happy you did.

3. FIND THE SOURCE
You know you're not happy, and you want to change. The next step is to look for the source. I know that when things start piling up I get a little tense. Once I feel that I am getting upset, I think about what things I am concerning myself with. Then I write them down, and get to work on them. This helps to bring order to my cluttered mind. Look for the source of the negativity. Did someone say something that upset you? Are you worried about something that you did? About something you still have to do?

4. FIX THE SOURCE
When you find the source, it's time to fix it. If someone upset you, talk with them. If you are worried about getting something done, do it. If you are worried about something you can't change, accept that you can't change it and move on.

5. DO SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY
Sometimes fixing the source isn't enough to change our mood. In this case, think of things that put you in a good mood. It could be anything that you choose. Calling a friend, going to lunch, playing golf, etc.
If you fix the source of the problem and you still feel down, do something fun.
This quick system will help to change your down days into some of the best up days you've ever had.

Don't Make Your Thoughts Your Prisons

You're more important than any of your problems. What you have outside you counts less than what you have inside you. Courage gives you the power to face your difficulties. It comes from the reserves of your mind that are more powerful than your outside circumstances.
Your obstacles will look large or small to you according to whether you are large or small. Courage gives you the capacity to confront what can be imagined. It gives you the ability to rise above your present reality. Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear. When you recognize that you're bigger than your problems, you'll gain the courage necessary to overcome anything.
Difference between Focusing on Problems and Focusing on Solutions
Case 1
When NASA began the launch of astronauts into space, they found out that the pens wouldn't work at zero gravity (ink won't flow down to the writing surface). To solve this problem, it took them one decade and $12 million. They developed a pen that worked at zero gravity, upside down, underwater, in practically any surface including crystal and in a temperature range from below freezing to over 300 degrees C.
And what did the Russians do...?? They used a pencil.

Case 2
One of the most memorable case studies on Japanese management was the case of the empty soapbox, which happened in one of Japan 's biggest cosmetics companies. The company received a complaint that a consumer had bought a soapbox that was empty. Immediately the authorities isolated the problem to the assembly line, which transported all the packaged boxes of soap to the delivery department. For some reason, one soapbox went through the assembly line empty. Management asked its engineers to solve the problem. Post-haste, the engineers worked hard to devise an X-ray machine with high-resolution monitors manned by two people to watch all the soapboxes that passed through the line to make sure they were not empty. No doubt, they worked hard and they worked fast but they spent whoopee amount to do so.
But when a rank-and-file employee in a small company was posed with the same problem, he did not get into complications of X-rays, etc., but instead came out with another solution. He bought a strong industrial electric fan and pointed it at the assembly line.. He switched the fan on, and as each soapbox passed the fan, it simply blew the empty boxes out of the line.

Moral:
1.. Always look for simple solutions...
2.. Devise the simplest possible solution that solves the problems...
3.. Always focus on solutions & not on Problems...

Motivational Quotes

"Learn to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want."
--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by Charity --- Singapore

“There is no color to the hand of friendship."
--- Author Unknown --- Sent in by Heather G.

"If you surrender completely to the moments as they pass, you live more richly those moments."
--- Anne Morrow Lindbergh --- Submitted by Terésa M. --- Perth - Western Australia

“Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched and those who have tried, for only
they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives."
--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by Chen --- Malaysia

"Steadfast, friend, though the seas be high and the crests break the soul, for the swells of the heart dwarf those of
the storm."
--- Author Unknown --- Contributed by George B.

"The person who sends out positive thoughts activates the world around him positively and draws back to himself
positive results."
--- Norman Vincent Peale

"Believe in something that captures your heart, your body, and your soul. Let it captivate your mind and open you
to new possibilities. Let it consume you and show you that through hard work, determination, and dedication you
will not fail."
--- Copyright © 2006 Jariel Morales

This is just something that I wrote to help me get through a situation. It helped me put things into perspective and
“Every moment of light and dark is a miracle."
--- Walt Whitman

"It is human nature to get depressed by setbacks, but it is a superhuman task to rise above your circumstances
and rewrite your destiny. The one that stands erect and unfazed, in the face of adversity, ultimately leaves the
footprints to success."
--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by Ranjita R. --- California

"To know someone here or there with whom you feel there is understanding, in spite of distances or thoughts
unexpressed; that can make of this earth a garden."
--- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe --- Submitted by Lei L. --- Hawaii

"Love cures people; both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it."
--- Karl Menniger --- Submitted by Kim T. --- Kansas

"What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. They are but trifles, to be sure; but, scattered along life's
pathway, the good they do is inconceivable."
--- Joseph Addison --- Sent in by Ray L. --- Ontario, Canada

"The only thing that you can carry with you on your travels is your heart. Fill you heart with good things and good
things will follow you for the rest of your life."
--- Scott Murray --- Zimbabwe, Africa

"Sometimes on the way to our dreams, we get lost and find an even better one!"
--- Author Unknown --- Contributed by Martha Gil --- Virginia

"Souls are like athletes that need opponents worthy of them if they are to be tried and extended and pushed to the
full use of their powers and rewarded according to their capacity."
--- Thomas Merton --- 'The Seven Storey Mountain'
--- Sent in by Bruce B. --- Out on a Submarine

"When odds are against me, I prove them wrong. When all else fails, I succeed. When all turns to ash, from it I
rise. So it doesn't matter what you throw at me or what you do, I will rise above it."
--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by Luke C. --- Victoria, Australia

"You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it."
--- Margaret Thatcher

"The people in one's life are like the pillars on one's porch you see life through. And sometimes they hold you up,
and sometimes they lean on you and sometimes it is just enough to know that they are standing by."
--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by Gwyneth F. --- Connecticut

“Be delighted at the prospect of a new day, a fresh try, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting
somewhere behind the morning."
--- J.B. Priestly --- Submitted by Hunter Barnett --- Florida

"When your world seems like too much to handle, just take a deep breath and laugh. It clears the mind and frees
your spirit."
--- Michael P. Miller --- California

"Find the good. It's all around you. Find it, showcase it, and you'll start believing in it."

" I am the best gift I have ever received."
--- Marion --- Washington

Grant me the strength to forgive myself
When innocent mistakes occur.
Grant me the knowledge to forgive myself
When decisions thought right backfire.
Grant me the courage to forgive myself
When issues arise I can't control.
Grant me the ability to forgive myself
When perfection falls short.
Grant me the intelligence to forgive myself
When my shortcomings are exposed.
Grant me the strength to forgive others
When errs are done onto me.
--- Written in 2001 by Ellen F.

"There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it."
--- Edith Wharton --- Contributed by Ed M.

“My interest is in the future because I am going to spend the rest of my life there."
--- Charles F. Kettering

"Once we recognize the fact that every individual is a treasury of hidden and unsuspected qualities, our lives
become richer, our judgment better, and our world is more right. It is not love that is blind, it is only the unnoticing
eye that cannot see the real qualities of people."
--- Charles H. Percy

"Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you. I
will uphold you with my victorious right hand."
--- Isaiah 41:10 --- Sent in by Jim H. --- Illinois

"Don't fear the bumpy roads that lie ahead, for it is nothing more that the settled dust we left behind."
--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by TH NH --- Mbabane, Swaziland

" To believe is to perceive the dance of intimacy upon the soul; to wish upon a shooting star is where the thought
of existence is upon the heart; to have a dream or a vision of a desire is to see beyond your circumstance of life."

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones
make you feel that you too, can become great.”
--- Mark Twain

“The wise man in a storm prays to God, not for safety from danger, but for deliverance from fear."
--- Ralph Waldo Emerson --- Contributed by Laureen M., Age 14 --- Washington
"Credulous hope supports our life and always says that tomorrow will be better."
--Tibullus --- Contributed by Jessica McCauley --- Pennsylvania

"We are not put on this earth to see through one another, but to see one another through."
--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by Jen U. --- Kentucky

"It isn't always necessary to achieve great things. Sometimes, just surviving is a great achievement."
--- Lori Hard --- California’’

"We all need each other."
--- Leo Buscaglia

"May every hour of this day bring something special; a thought that makes you smile, a smile that warms the heart,
and a heart that holds much happiness inside."
--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by M.N. --- Manila, Philippines