Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Beautiful Quotes For Your Beautiful Day

Beautiful Day Quotes in the Pictures:

What is a Friend? I will tell you… it is someone with whom you dare to be yourself. – Frank Crane



The Goal of Life is living in agreement with nature. - Zeno



To be in love is the best way to see the life at it’s best.



Enjoy your life today because yesterday had gone and tomorrow may never come – Alan Coren



Friends are born, not made – Henry Adams



There are things that are known, and things that are unknown, and in between, there are doors.




If even a day should go by when I don’t say I love you, may never a moment go by without you knowing that I do.




Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. – Oscar Wilde



You know it’s love when all you want is that person to be happy; even if you’re not part of their happiness.



True friends are two people who are comfortable sharing silence together.



Some joys are better expressed in silence as a smile holds more meaning than words. I was asked if i enjoy having you in my life. I just smiled!



It is not that I am afraid to die, it is that if i die who will love you as i do.

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

To Lie Or To Tell The Truth


What’s better…

…to lie and avoid causing discomfort or unhappiness to the other person?

or…

…to tell the truth and risk hurting the other person?

In my view, we should never hide the truth with the person who loves you and know better about you. "Honesty is the best policy". If you are honest you never need to worry that may cause discomfort. If the person is so close and can understand you better so there will not be any question of pain. Sure there would be a bitter day or days during to digest the truth but slowly it will wipe off the discomfort.

When there is no understanding, you have to hide the truth and make the situations to make the person understand about the truth. It will take sometime but make a peaceful solution to the situation.

We too must think about what happens when we don’t tell the truth. When we keep our thoughts and feelings hidden. What good does it do for the other person? In the short term, it may spare them some time away from hurt. But in the end, the truth will always surface. And by then, the pain brought upon the other person could be much, much worse.

There are times, you need to hide some things for time being with the person. According to the situations, we feel to hide it and want to confess about it later. And the truth should be always disclosed by you if it is important and related to you. And never give the chance to others to tell the truth in a wrong way. So be clear in your views and thoughts with the person you love and trust. You dont need to explain whole world about you, because when you are honest and truthful then all others will automatically come to know the truth.

If you want to share the happiness by hiding then definately go ahead to keep them secret and give a sweet and memorable surprises. Surprises will make so happy to feel about it and people will never forget them. So happy things can always be shared by keeping them secret for sometime.

Friday, March 4, 2011

Hope For The Best–Prepare For The Worst


Most people hope for things to turn out positive in their lives.Some people seem to think and attract bad happenings or misfortune. Is it all coincidence or are there underlying mechanisms that can influence outcomes?

Let us suppose that there are no mechanisms and everything is coincidence and randomly happen. If that is the case, then any amount of positive thinking will not have any affect on reality outside of your conscious awareness. And negative thinking will create a fear in us and make us so helpless in both physically and mentally. Try not be around the situations or with the people who make you so depressed or continuosuly think on a single thing and destroy yourself.


Hope For The Best

Be a Optimist(Someone who always make you happy with good suggestions and deeds) than Pessimist(Someone who always make you feel low and worse) . Think high and reap the happy results. When you hope for the best, you at least hope for the possibility of positive outcomes if there is that possibility inherent in the outcome of any particular situation.

The good thing about positive thinking or more accurately, having a positive attitude, is that it’s less stressful to you, it is a much better way to interact with people, and your actions become more focused on what needs to be accomplished. Rathar than having the negative thinking which makes us so depressed and being closed in a boundary, think out the circumstance in a positive way. Gather all the points which can make a situation to be good rather than worse at that moment.Leave the past situations which made you think negative or worse, take the good things and memories which made your world till today.

So Hope the best for all the situations, support your family, friends and all well wishers. Support all the people who are literally down and make their outcome to be happy. Positive thinking will always achieve your goals.

Prepare For The Worst
Make it possible to prepare for the worst without being a pessimist. Keep logical about any situation and potential situations and be prepared to move into survival mode instantly.

If you prepare for the worst, you will always increase your chances for survival. If everything is ready and clear, there will not be any chance to blame others for the situation. As a normal person everybody will be able to handle the current situation, despite of having a positive hope prepare for the worse cases also, to come out of it even though it is very hard to digest and to be in it.

Be health consious.Keep aware of your surroundings in emergency situations. Most people will not be prepared, adding to their confusion and panic.Confusion increases the danger level for everything, so stay calm and prepare for the worst possible situations always.It is we ultimately who are going to suffer and travel in life.

So Have Faith in God,Believe in yourself, have a positive Hope, prepare for the worst cases. Love everyone and go along with the Life Happily.

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Belief,Faith and Knowing



To know something, to believe something, and to have faith in something are all different things.We can think something with only the knowledge of ourselves, and we can know something with the totality of who we are. How we know, and at what depth we know, determines how we live.

To begin with, let us ask ourself: What is it to 'know' something? What is it to 'believe' something? What is it to 'have faith' in something?

We believe things with our minds. Beliefs are ideas. They are concepts. They give us a picture of reality that others can agree with or disagree with. Beliefs are thoughts that can be put into words and these words can be communicated to others. Beliefs, however, are not absolute truths. They are opinions about reality, not reality itself. In the realm of belief we can have our own opinions, others can have their opinions, and we can agree or disagree, remembering that the truth of our beliefs is relative. And not 100% of what you believe is true, know about it start having faith or trust on what you got to know. So discuss,discuss and discuss with the friends or with the closest person so that you can come out of the current situation or current opinion or belief you have.

Faith combines our heart's wish and our mind's belief.Having faith in something is different than this.Faith relates us to an unvarying, underlying reality that we share in - one that we assume exists whether we believe in it or not. Unlike beliefs which are of the mind, faith is not just of the mind but of the heart as well. Trust and Faith are similar in the things. If you have a true belief on a person, you will have 100% trust and faith on them. Once the trust is gone you will never try to look back towards the person. Before taking any step towards your loved ones, think about most possible worst and the best cases which were happened during any wrong or in a quarrel.When we have faith, we believe in the invisible.

In doing this, our mind faces a clear choice between doubt and trust. Faith makes the choice to trust based on the joining of mind and heart. It makes the choice to suspend doubt and to say "yes" to the thinking of the heart rather than mind.

Knowing is based on our experience of something. In knowing something, we do not think or speculate about it. We perceive it so deeply within ourselves as true that we don't have to discuss it, and no matter what anyone else says about it, it does not alter our reality.Our knowing should be so secure and private that there should be no others intensions or thoughts are involved in you. It is you who has to think about the world and get to know through research. Once you are confident enough about a person or your belief never go back with false points around you. Even though there is chance of doubt, take time and know again about it in peacefully.

So all, Believe in yourself ,have faith in god and know the things perfect and live Happily!!!!!!!!!!!!

Monday, February 7, 2011

Your Eyes Will Express



“Our eyes are placed in front because it is more important to look ahead than to look behind.”

The Perfect quote to express what our heart and mind wants to tell.What could be the better way than the placement of your eyes?!

Created to move forward in life, we strive to achieve great things. Everything around us is in similar progression. Nothing in life can ever move backwards. Nothing can ever retreat. Even on a battle field, there’s still a progression of time and effort – whether or not the opposing side is forcing you to physically regress.


It's our eyes who gives the result of mind and heart. Beautiful smile brings happiness in our eyes.Love is most important and beautiful feeling which every one has among their partner and towards others is expressed through eyes beautifully. Our Ambition and Achievement is shown with a Confidence in our eyes.When we win the race it is purely shown in eyes.One of the Guilty feelings will make us not to look at others as our eyes feel so sorry for our behavior and not even meant to be there in front of them.Angry on a particular person is also shown with our eyes. Fear which will scare our eyes to move forward.And the Tears which fall in happiness and sorrow are expressed with our beautiful eyes.


Take note to the placement of your eyes. I’m not necessarily sure I believe in fate or that there is a reason for everything that happens; however, I find an incredible amount of comfort in the possibility. So with that said, this quote gives a bright outlook on life. One in which gives us reason to look forward. To find excitement in possibility. To take an optimistic approach as we walk through each and every day.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

It All Begins With US


“Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.”
-Frank Outlaw

Like a small seed planted into the ground, your destiny begins from a simple thought. As the thought turns into words, which turns into actions, what was once a tiny seed begins budding in new growth. From your repetitious actions, habits slowly form, and your character begins to emerge. And who you are and the path you proceed in this life will ultimately determine your fate.

Spread happiness among all who are around. All Happiness is based on our attitude and behavior with others. A small and simple word/sentence which would not make us to think but could hurt others a lot. It is totally in us about being good or bad. Always feel sorry and learn from the mistakes you come across, which leads to good person ultimately. It is like how you seed so you reap the result.

I think this is an incredible quote and offers some great advice. It shows the power of a simple thought and its ability to lead you into the future. Watching what you think, what you say and how you act is good practice for anyone. Focusing on positive thoughts will bring positive words, actions and habits. Building an optimistic character will spread that same optimism all around you. And by surrounding yourself with happiness, love and strength, a beautiful flower will begin to blossom.

Monday, January 24, 2011

Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We were all meant to shine, as children do.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same
As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

Friday, January 21, 2011

“One of the worst feelings in the world is having to doubt something that you thought was unquestionable.”

Whether religion, or the one you have fallen in love with, or the family who has raised you since birth, there are certain things in life that you consider to be reliable, dependable and unchanging. These are the things in life that you would never dream of having to question. So with those things in mind, what if you suddenly were put in a position of doubt? Of question?

I love it because it makes me think. It makes me think about all of the things and people I hold closest to my heart, and what were to happen if I lost them, or my trust in them. And then it also sends me a subtle reminder to appreciate all of the love and support I’m given each and every day. That if I reached out for a helping hand or a supportive embrace, it would be there. And I am forever grateful for the ones in my life that I know will always be there.

But with this knowledge now in mind and having experienced times of doubt in people I never imagined I’d question, I like to believe it’s made me a stronger person. It’s opened my eyes to a newfound appreciation. It’s allowed me to put my best foot forward. Hopefully, you can take something valuable away from this quote, just as I have.

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

How to Choose a Suitable Life Partner

Marriage is a wonderful thing and every person wants to find a suitable life partner for themselves as it is a very serious lifetime decision for both partners. Marriage is not only about two personalities, but it is about two families and in some cases cultures joining together as one. Two hearts come together to build a relationship therefore this decision should be taken with caution.

When you choose a suitable life partner for yourself at first you start out as strangers to each other and with time you get to know more about one another, that’s why patience and understanding is a very important essence, which will make your relationship grow stronger.

Choosing a suitable life partner is always a hard decision as it involves you giving your heart to a person whom you like and choose to love yet in the beginning no very little about. It is very important that you should choose a life partner who is caring, affectionate and has respect for you.

1. Look for a suitable life partner who is not only beautiful on the outside but also within, one who will stick by your side for the rest of your life and be able to have a better understanding of you. Choose a life partner who is able to look into your eyes and can honestly say that you’re the right choice for him or her.

2. We all know that marriage is a strong bound with which we can share with that special someone. Therefore your life partner should have a good sense of who you are, and they should understand your needs very well. He or she must be responsible and comfortable with the relationship otherwise you just might wind up spending your whole life regretting why you did not choose someone else for a life partner.

3. A suitable life partner should be one who is on the same mental and emotional level as you so that there will be fewer disagreements, and if there are any arguments you can sort them out with understanding. It’s important that you take the time to know each other very well before you decide to tie the knot because if you do not do so then it might create a lot of problems in the future.

4. Marriage can be such a beautiful thing if you find a suitable life partner of your choice, otherwise you might end up shading so many tears instead, that’s why the whole decision on choosing the right life partner needs to be handled with a lot of care. There are many websites and companies out there now offering a chance for all those people who are looking for suitable life partners and those who simply want to share their experience about married life to freely discuss these things on a social platform.

5. If you truly take the time to know your life partner right from the start it’s easy to work towards creating a happy marriage with each other.

Friday, October 30, 2009

Handbook for your Life

Personality:

1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

2. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

3. Don't overdo. Keep your limits.

4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.

6. Dream more while you are awake.

7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.

10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.

13. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

14. Smile and laugh more.

15. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.


Society:

1. Call your family often.

2. Each day give something good to others.

3. Forgive everyone for everything.

4. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.

5. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

6. What other people think of you is none of your business.

7. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.


Life:

1. Do the right thing!

2. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

3. GOD heals everything.

4. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

5. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

6. The best is yet to come.

7. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.

8. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.





Health:


1. Drink plenty of water.

2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.

3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

5. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer.

6. Play more games.

7. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

8. Sleep for 7 hours.

9. Take a 10-30 minutes’ walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

Coffee, Eggs and Carrots

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...


A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up, She was tired of fighting and struggling.. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'

'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked,'What does it mean, mother?'

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

Nice Message on Life

20 Facts

Listed below are 20 facts that we didn't even think of as facts until now.

1) Whenever I find the key to success, someone changes the lock.

2) To Err is human, to forgive is not a COMPANY policy, hence you get fired.

3) The road to success??.. Is always under construction.

4)Alcohol doesn't solve any problems, but if you think again, neither does Milk.

5) In order to get a Loan, you first need to prove that you don't need it.

6) All the desirable things in life are either illegal, expensive or fattening.

7) Since Light travels faster than Sound, people appear brighter before you hear them speak..

8) Everyone has a scheme of getting rich.. Which never works.

9) If at first you don't succeed.. Destroy all evidence that you ever tried that way you succeed the very first time.

10) You can never determine which side of the bread to butter. If it falls down, it will always land on the buttered side.

11) Anything dropped on the floor will roll over to the most inaccessible corner.

12) 42.7% of all statistics are made on the spot.

13) If you have paper, you don't have a pen??. If you have a pen, you don't have paper?? if you have both, no one calls.

14) If you have bunked the class, the professor has taken attendance.

15) You will pick up maximum wrong numbers when on roaming.

16) After a long wait for bus no.20, two 20 number buses will always pull in together and the bus which you get in will be crowded than the other.

17) The last person to be fired or quit is responsible for all the errors until another person is fired or quits.

18) Irrespective of the direction of the wind, the smoke from the cigarette will always tend to go to the nonsmoker

19) You can never be in office on time because...
if you come to office early your colleagues curse you,
if you leave office early your bosses curse you,
if you come to office late your bosses curse you,
if you leave office late your colleagues curse you.

20) No matter how much you achieve and reach your targets, your targets will be changed and you will always be told you could have done better.

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

11 ways to be a happy employee

1. Plan your week on Sunday night
Look at your work calendar and plan your week on Sunday night or Monday morning. This would include important meetings, deliverables, a brief summary of things that are pending from last week and any tasks to be achieved during the week. Though this might look like a time management tip, at the end of the week, on Friday night when you re-visit what you have achieved over the last five days, the satisfaction is immense.

2. Undertake activities that you are passionate about even though it might not be in your job profile
Start an initiative that you would love to do irrespective of whether it is required for you to do or not.

Send a daily newsletter to your team on the topics that most of them will be interested.
Do a presentation on the topic that you are passionate about.
Organise a small sports event for your team.
Call everyone in your team for a team coffee, breakfast or lunch break
Appreciate colleagues in your team or in a cross-functional team who did a great job
Write a poem on your team's achievements
Arrange a potluck lunch

3. Do not indulge in the blame game
If something goes wrong do not blame others blindly. If you commit a mistake, do not hesitate to accept it. As Gauthama Buddha said, there are three things we can't hide for long: the sun, earth and the truth. Accepting your mistake gracefully will only make you look like a true professional and also give you the satisfaction of not cheating.

4. Communicate more often in person
Utilise all the opportunities where you can speak to an individual in person rather than e-mail or phone. But be aware of the other person's time and availability. Listening to a positive answer from a person will give you more happiness than if it is done over the phone or via e-mail.

5. Know what is happening at your workplace
Will this make a person happy? Truly, yes! Imagine a cricket team that doesn't know how many runs to score to win a match? More than losing the game, the player will never be interested or motivated to play well.

Attend all meetings that are addressed by the CEO to your immediate manager to know what is going to happen around you. It could be the company's growth plan or your department's next big project. Jack Welch mentions in his book Winning "every employee, not just the senior people, should know how a company is doing."

You will also get an extra edge if you are in a position to answer queries raised by your peers or juniors. This is not just for the good reasons, but bad reasons as well. You do not want to be the last employee to know if your company is laying off employees (in the worst case, if you are the one who is on that list).

6. Participate in organisation-level activities
This could be as simple as spending one weekend for a corporate social responsibility activity or attending a recruitment drive to help your HR team or arranging a technical/sports event at the organisational level. Most of these events will be successful as people do come on their own to contribute.

7. Have a hobby that keeps you busy and happy
Many people say their hobby is watching TV or listening to music or reading the newspaper. These aren't hobbies, they are just ways of passing the time. Some hobbies are evergreen and will keep you evergreen as well: dancing, painting, writing short stories, poems, blogs and sharing your experiences.

8. Take up a sport
While choosing a sport make sure that there is physical activity. There is the danger of becoming addicted to sports where there is less physical activity (like computer games, chess, cards etc). Physical activity keeps a person healthy and happy. If you pick up one sport well, you can represent your organisation in corporate sports event too.

9. Keep yourself away from office politics
Politics, as a practice, whatever its profession, has always been the systematic organization of hatreds. -- Henry Brooks Adams

Politics is everywhere and the office is no exception. Playing politics might be beneficial but only for the short term. So the best thing to do is play fair.

10. Wish and smile
More often than not, there are fair chances that the other person will smile back. This could be your security guard at the gate, your receptionist, your office boy, your CEO or your manager -- never forget to wish them and smile.

11. Volunteer for some activity

"The value of a man resides in what he gives and not in what he is capable of receiving." � Albert Einstein



Do at least one activity without expecting anything in return. There is no set frequency for this. This could be once in a day or once in a week or thrice in a week. It could be as simple as making tea at the office for your colleague, helping a colleague who is working in another department by using your skills, dropping your colleague at his door step in your car, going to your manager or colleague to ask if there is any help you can extend, contributing to technical or knowledge management communities in your organisation etc.

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

The "Be" Attitudes

1)Be understanding to your perceived enemies.

2)Be loyal to your friends.

3)Be strong enough to face the world each day.

4)Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything alone.

5)Be generous to those who need your help.

6)Be frugal with that you need yourself.

7)Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything.

8)Be foolish enough to believe in miracles.

9)Be willing to share your joys.

10)Be willing to share the sorrows of others.

11)Be a leader when you see a path others have missed.

12)Be a follower when you are shrouded by the mists of uncertainty.

13)Be first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds.

14)Be last to criticize a colleague who fails.

15)Be sure where your next step will fall, so that you will not tumble.

16)Be sure of your final destination, in case you are going the wrong way.

17)Be loving to those who love you..

18)Be loving to those who do not love you; they may change.

19)Above all, Be yourself.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

12 Ways To Be Happy

1. Make up your mind to be happy.
Learn to find pleasure in simple things.

2. Make the best of your circumstances.
No one has everything, and everyone has something
of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life. The trick is
to make the laughter outweigh the tears.

3. Don't take yourself too seriously.
Don't think that somehow you should be protected
from misfortune that befalls other people.

4. You can't please everybody. Don't let criticism worry you.

5. Don't let your neighbour set your standards. Be yourself.

6. Do the things you enjoy doing but stay out of debt.

7. Never borrow trouble. Imaginary things are harder
to bear than real ones.

8. Since hate poisons the soul, do not cherish jealousy,
Avoid people who make you unhappy.

9. Have many interests. If you can't travel, read about new places.

10. Don't hold postmortems. Don't spend your time brooding
over sorrows or mistakes. Don't be one who never gets over things.

11. Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself.

12. Keep busy at something. A busy person never has time
to be unhappy.

Monday, August 25, 2008

Instructions For Life

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

2. When you lose, dont lose the Lesson.

3. Follow the Three R's:
a) Respect for self,
b) Respect for others,
c) Responsibility for all your actions.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck

5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

6. Don't let a little dispute injure a great relationship.

7. When you realized that you have made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8. Spend sometime alone everyday.

9. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.

10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

11. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it for a second time.

12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

13. In disagreements with the loved one, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.

14. Share your Knowledge. It is a way to achieve Immortality.

15. Be Gentle with Earth.

16. Once a year, go someplace you have never been before.

17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

Monday, August 4, 2008

How To Communicate: Improve Your Relationships With Effective Communication Skills

Stay Focused: Sometimes it’s tempting to bring up past seemingly related conflicts when dealing with current ones. Unfortunately, this often clouds the issue and makes finding mutual understanding and a solution to the current issue less likely, and makes the whole discussion more taxing and even confusing. Try not to bring up past hurts or other topics. Stay focused on the present, your feelings, understanding one another and finding a solution.

Listen Carefully: People often think they’re listening, but are really thinking about what they’re going to say next when the other person stops talking. Truly effective communication goes both ways. While it might be difficult, try really listening to what your partner is saying. Don’t interrupt. Don’t get defensive. Just hear them and reflect back what they’re saying so they know you’ve heard. Then you’ll understand them better and they’ll be more willing to listen to you.

Try To See Their Point of View: In a conflict, most of us primarily want to feel heard and understood. We talk a lot about our point of view to get the other person to see things our way. Ironically, if we all do this all the time, there’s little focus on the other person’s point of view, and nobody feels understood. Try to really see the other side, and then you can better explain yours. (If you don't 'get it', ask more questions until you do.) Others will more likely be willing to listen if they feel heard.

Respond to Criticism with Empathy: When someone comes at you with criticism, it’s easy to feel that they’re wrong, and get defensive. While criticism is hard to hear, and often exaggerated or colored by the other person’s emotions, it’s important to listen for the other person’s pain and respond with empathy for their feelings. Also, look for what’s true in what they’re saying; that can be valuable information for you.

Own What’s Yours: Realize that personal responsibility is a strength, not a weakness. Effective communication involves admitting when you’re wrong. If you both share some responsibility in a conflict (which is usually the case), look for and admit to what’s yours. It diffuses the situation, sets a good example, and shows maturity. It also often inspires the other person to respond in kind, leading you both closer to mutual understanding and a solution.

Use “I” Messages: Rather than saying things like, “You really messed up here,” begin statements with “I”, and make them about yourself and your feelings, like, “I feel frustrated when this happens.” It’s less accusatory, sparks less defensiveness, and helps the other person understand your point of view rather than feeling attacked.

Look for Compromise Instead of trying to ‘win’ the argument, look for solutions that meet everybody’s needs. Either through compromise, or a new solution that gives you both what you want most, this focus is much more effective than one person getting what they want at the other’s expense. Healthy communication involves finding a resolution that both sides can be happy with.

Take a Time-Out: Sometimes tempers get heated and it’s just too difficult to continue a discussion without it becoming an argument or a fight. If you feel yourself or your partner starting to get too angry to be constructive, or showing some destructive communication patterns, it’s okay to take a break from the discussion until you both cool off. Sometimes good communication means knowing when to take a break.

Don’t Give Up:
While taking a break from the discussion is sometimes a good idea, always come back to it. If you both approach the situation with a constructive attitude, mutual respect, and a willingness to see the other’s point of view or at least find a solution, you can make progress toward the goal of a resolution to the conflict. Unless it’s time to give up on the relationship, don’t give up on communication.

Ask For Help If You Need It:
If one or both of you has trouble staying respectful during conflict, or if you’ve tried resolving conflict with your partner on your own and the situation just doesn’t seem to be improving, you might benefit from a few sessions with a therapist. Couples counseling or family therapy can provide help with altercations and teach skills to resolve future conflict. If your partner doesn’t want to go, you can still often benefit from going alone.

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Top 10 tips for Nonverbal Communication

Good communication skills can help you in both your personal and professional life. While verbal and written communication skills are important, research has shown that nonverbal behaviors make up a large percentage of our daily interpersonal communication. How can you improve your nonverbal communication skills? The following top ten tips for nonverbal communication can help you learn to read the nonverbal signals of other people and enhance your own ability to communicate effectively.

1. Pay Attention to Nonverbal Signals
People can communicate information in numerous ways; so pay attention to things like eye contact, gestures, posture, body movements, and tone of voice. All of these signals can convey important information that isn't put into words. By paying closer attention to other people's nonverbal behaviors, you will improve your own ability to communicate nonverbally.
2. Look for Incongruent Behaviors
If someone's words do not match their nonverbal behaviors, you should pay careful attention. For example, someone might tell you they are happy while frowning and staring at the ground. Research has shown that when words fail to match up with nonverbal signals, people tend to ignore what has been said and focus instead on nonverbal expressions of moods, thoughts, and emotions.
3. Concentrate on Your Tone of Voice When Speaking
Your tone of voice can convey a wealth of information, ranging from enthusiasm to disinterest to anger. Start noticing how your tone of voice affects how others respond to you and try using tone of voice to emphasize ideas that you want to communicate. For example, if you want to show genuine interest in something, express your enthusiasm by using an animated tone of voice.
4. Use Good Eye Contact
When people fail to look others in the eye, it can seem as if they are evading or trying to hide something. On the other hand, too much eye contact can seem confrontational or intimidating. While eye contact is an important part of communication, it's important to remember that good eye contact does not mean staring fixedly into someone's eyes. How can you tell how much eye contact is correct? Some communication experts recommend intervals of eye contact lasting four to five seconds.
5. Ask Questions About Nonverbal Signals
If you are confused about another person's nonverbal signals, don't be afraid to ask questions. A good idea is to repeat back your interpretation of what has been said and ask for clarification. An example of this might be, "So what you are saying is that..."
6. Use Signals to Make Communication More Effective and Meaningful
Remember that verbal and nonverbal communication work together to convey a message. You can improve your spoken communication by using nonverbal signals and gestures that reinforce and support what you are saying. This can be especially useful when making presentations or when speaking to a large group of people.
7. Look at Signals as a Group
A single gesture can mean any number of things, or maybe even nothing at all. The key to accurately reading nonverbal behavior is to look for groups of signals that reinforce a common point. If you place too much emphasis on just one signal out of many, you might come to an inaccurate conclusion about what a person is trying to communicate.
8. Consider Context
When you are communicating with others, always consider the situation and the context in which the communication occurs. Some situations require more formal behaviors that might be interpreted very differently in any other setting. Consider whether or not nonverbal behaviors are appropriate for the context. If you are trying to improve your own nonverbal communication, concentrate on ways to make your signals match the level of formality necessitated by the situation.
9. Be Aware That Signals Can be Misread
According to some, a firm handshake indicates a strong personality while a weak handshake is taken as a lack of fortitude. This example illustrates an important point about the possibility of misreading nonverbal signals. A limp handshake might actually indicate something else entirely, such as arthritis. Always remember to look for groups of behavior. A person's overall demeanor is far more telling than a single gesture viewed in isolation.
10. Practice, Practice, Practice
Some people just seem to have a knack for using nonverbal communication effectively and correctly interpreting signals from others. These people are often described as being able to "read people." In reality, you can build this skill by paying careful attention to nonverbal behavior and practicing different types of nonverbal communication with others. By noticing nonverbal behavior and practicing your own skills, you can dramatically improve your communication abilities.

Friday, July 11, 2008

10 Tips To Boost Ur Confidence

1.Don't put yourself down
2.Don't apologize for being you
3.Be decisive don't say may be. Say yes or no
4.Don't say I can't instead say, may be I can I'll try it
5.Don't procrastinate (postponing)
6.Think about your positive points
7.Volunteer more often
8.Dream a little
9. Set Goals.
10.Play the part